"STOP FOR THE ONE"
One of my heros, Heidi Baker is pretty famous for this statement and belief system and has used it to help people realize how they can help change the world through caring for the children.
This statement is challenging if you think about it. It arrested me years ago because although my heart is big for people, I also have the tendancy to look past people and past the present to the big picture, the plan, and the future. When I put this in my mind, it brings me back to my present and reminds me that I have something to give and the most impact I can make is right in front of me. This is not just for orpans in Africa, it is also much CLOSER to home.
In fact, most things that we need, want or dream start right in front of us. God is so good that He makes things super easy to find... He puts the people, the resources, the talents, the gifts and Especially HIMSELF, right in front of us.
About 16 years ago when I was 23 years old, I spent 12 months living with a family and started a relationship with a woman who would turn out to mother me in ways that I had missed out on the first go around. The truth is there is a little orphan in most of us. A place where our heart was hurt and received the message that we were not provided for or protected ... a place where we learned that we need to do these things ourself. For some, it is deep and wide and for others it is just pockets of lies mixed with truth, all determined by the circumstances of our lives.
We need to learn to be Daughters and Sons, in fact, I really think most of us need More Parenting as adults than we realize.
For me, I had very loving parents and was never abused, so I just had pockets of truth and lies. Regardless, this new mentoring relationship has been so valuable to me as I have grown. This family came into my life right when I needed them. I needed love, advice, safety and encouragement that I could become an adult. I needed to hear the encouragement in what I was doing well and the advice at things that could improve.
I read a blog today on Mentoring that describes it perefectly... "The Importantce of Showing up in Small Ways" talks about how we just need to "show up for people", to love them.
John Sowers puts it this way,
When someone shows up for us, they echo the divine promise that says, “I am with you.”
From the moment I had just a little love and a little of me to give at 23 years old, I have been giving to and encouraging others. I didn't always do things right, but I gave what I had. I realize now, that I have more to give than I ever have had in my life and my heart is to take mentoring to the next level.
I realize that although I have never given birth to a child, I am no longer just a big sister, but I am a mother. My heart is not just touched by the daughters in my life, they are IN my heart. I pray for them, I think about them and I want the best for them. I want to lend the strength of my life to help them where they need it to find the strength to fly. I want them to KNOW how much they are LOVED by the Lord and I want them to feel that love here on earth.
It is really simple. Just stop for the one. Recognize that if you have Jesus, you have LOVE and LOVE COVERS. I have not "gone through" even half of what my girls have experienced. They don't need someone who has gone through it, they need someone who will love them where they are and see the truth of who they are and where they are going. I have come to realize that my job is to just pray and obey. To really just look at them with the eyes of the Lord and call out the GOLD that is inside of them.
Heidi Baker often says she is just a little woman living in the dirt with people in Africa. She is nothing special.
She is special, but special like we all are special. I am just a young woman learning to be a mom while living in the suburbs of Nashville. Living each day with my husband, Jesus, and taking time to love those that my Father brings me to love.
If we all stopped for the one right in front of us....
and loved them intentionally with all of the Jesus inside of us.
What would the world look like?